Some Practical Guidelines
At the recent meeting of Central Region chapter presidents, a warning was sounded by more than one brother on the dangers of marital infidelity and sexual immorality.

Some very practical advice was offered to help members avoid getting into situations that could lead to adultery, marital infidelity and sexual immorality. All men in the marketplace are constantly open and subjected to temptation. It is everywhere. At the office, in business interactions with suppliers, customers and associates, in places of entertainment and recreation and even on the golf course, with lady caddies imported from neighboring countries. It is often said that it is okay to be tempted so long as the act of adultery is not committed. Jesus warns that to even look at a woman lustfully is adultery.

Being responsible Christians the FGB men would not intentionally start out to commit adultery. However, if they put themselves in situations open to temptation then they may fall. Even prominent men of God have fallen. Remember Samson and King David? If they can fall surely we can too. To only trust our strength to resist is folly for often the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Minimizing exposure to tempting situations would reduce the danger of falling. So here are some useful advice from men who have been in such situations. Treat them as guidelines from the FGBMF. When asked the reason for your behavior you can answer them with pride that you are following the guidelines of FGBMF, which encourage all men to be faithful to their wives.

Besides being Happy Men they also belong to the Wife - Lovers’ Society. FGBMF men love only their own wives.

1.	Do not tease or flirt with women. There is no such thing as an innocent joke. Such teasing and flirtation has an underlying sexual intent, even if not apparent at that time. For example, a remark like, “If I am not married I would want to marry you”, is not only bad taste, it is disrespectful of that woman as well as your own wife. It is not edifying and it causes others to think poorly of Christians. We are supposed to be holy but when we flirt and tease we are perhaps even worse than the world. Even non-believing gentlemen do not do this. Such remarks are sinful. You are implying that you prefer this woman to your wife. Even worse you wish your wife was dead.
2.	Avoid one-on-one interaction with another woman. This includes lunch, dinner and other social interactions. Always have another person present. If such interaction is unavoidable because of business requirements then phone your wife in the presence of that woman informing your wife where you are, whom you are with and how long the meeting is expected to last. End by telling your wife that you love her.
3.	Do not counsel a woman on a one-to-one basis. Always have your wife present. Indeed it is preferable that man counsels man and woman counsels woman. This is true even if the subject of counsel is on business matters. If your wife or the other woman does not like your wife to be present then do not counsel her at all. Leave it to others to do it.
4.	Do not give a lift to a woman on an individual basis. There must always be another person in the car. Even if it means a longer journey always drop off the woman first. When there is no choice then you must phone your wife and let her know who you are giving a lift to, the destination and the time you are expected to be home.
5.	FGBMF is a men’s ministry. Our airlifts, mission and evangelistic trips may only include wives of members traveling in the same group. Other women shall not be invited to participate. Not even those women who may have been attending or supporting the chapter meetings.
6.	Avoid unwholesome entertainment that involves hostesses, guest relations officers or social escorts. If you have to do this to get business perhaps you should give up that business. Have faith that God will provide - if you are obedient.
7.	We are each other’s keeper. Should we see a brother with another woman who is not his wife we have the duty and responsibility to challenge him by asking to be introduced to the woman. We do not judge or jump to any conclusion but give the brother an opportunity to tell us who the woman is. This mutual accountability will help us to be reminded that we must avoid situations that can develop or lead to situations of temptation.

The above guidelines would minimize our exposure to sexual temptations. There would be less chances of falling. We would be building up good marital relationships with our wives. We would not commit adultery and can therefore finish strong.